Personal question is personal.
Jan 24, 2018 3:10:55 GMT 11
Tiki, *~Donita Eden~*, and 1 more like this
Post by Lamont on Jan 24, 2018 3:10:55 GMT 11
Is a bit of a heavy topic, but no you're not alone. Venting time!
I can't say I've ever been on the ending it edge (though I've lightly pondered), but am I generally happy with my life? Not really. Am I even on the track of where I want to be? No. Can I get on that track? With great mental difficulty, and most of that [sadly enough] is due to the responsibilities I feel toward this site.
I'm stuck in a job I hate cause 1) The economy isn't great so job hunting is... a trial, 2) I don't make enough to really save much money so kinda need continuous income (and it isn't like I have a booming social life, I don't spend money on much outside of essentials), 3) I have an incredible sense of loyalty and my job has a high bus factor so I know if I left at a busy time of year my Boss would flounder and I'd feel bad, and 4) Majority of my free time is keeping this place afloat.
I work in an office with stable hours yes, but it's a small 'middleman' operation so I have Zero control over how things go but am always the one customers yell at when things go wrong (and my god do things go wrong in the stupidest ways), so it does not matter at all how good I am at my job, I get yelled at for others' mistakes. Plus I have no ability to actually fix anything myself it's always just go talk to this series of person.Which, for me, is particularly bad cause due to some childhood traumas I just... can't talk on the phone. I have such anxiety about being on the phone it's stupid, even voice chats I avoid like the plague. I know it's dumb. This job is worse than normal customer service jobs in that respect, and I've done a lot of customer service as I just have that personality where I can't not help someone. Like, hello someone I just met. Oh? You're birthday is a ruin and you're sad? I will buy you a birthday present.
The job also pays shit cause the only other one in the business is my boss so he pays me personally out of what he makes. I've wanted to get out for over a year now, to the point I've broken down crying over it. Though, some of that may have been helped due to family members being in and out of the hospital for 2 Christmas' now.
I've been trying to spend what little bit of free time I have to myself delving into new coding languages and generally learning web design so I can change career paths, but my motivation is shot as I'm just tired and want to sit back and relax and do what I want when I have time to myself. Right now I'm at the point of quitting my job and going back to school (so yay more debt...) so I can get certification to even be considered for a job I'll enjoy. But I don't even have much desire to do that since my first 6 years in Uni I only have bad memories of professors throwing me under the bus and retarded student advisors. Also, having investigated After Degrees a bit, it seems that even if I do dump money into applying and hoping to get in I am absolutely bottom of the list for everything and may not even be able to get in to any classes I'd need to advance cause everything goes to Transfer Students & High Schoolers. I feel like I've been utterly %@#$^! because I bothered to get a degree already.
Even being here... I like chatting with everyone cause you guys are nearly my only friends. I don't hang out with anyone in the city that is my friend -- they're all my hubby's work friends. But I can't even enjoy the forum really cause I spend 99% of my time making sure everyone else is updated and happy, and I feel like no one else is willing to take half hour out of their day in return. I feel like if I didn't dedicate as much time as I do to even just keeping ZZ creeping along then it would die and it'd be my fault.
[Note: This is just how I feel on my darker days and isn't necessarily a true representation of how things are on ZZ cause I know a lot of others here have had their own junk to deal with. I'm just stressed.]
So yeah, you're not alone in the terrible mess of life, the world showing you the finger, and your brain beating you down. But that's a bright side right? Sadness buddies!
I can't say I've ever been on the ending it edge (though I've lightly pondered), but am I generally happy with my life? Not really. Am I even on the track of where I want to be? No. Can I get on that track? With great mental difficulty, and most of that [sadly enough] is due to the responsibilities I feel toward this site.
I'm stuck in a job I hate cause 1) The economy isn't great so job hunting is... a trial, 2) I don't make enough to really save much money so kinda need continuous income (and it isn't like I have a booming social life, I don't spend money on much outside of essentials), 3) I have an incredible sense of loyalty and my job has a high bus factor so I know if I left at a busy time of year my Boss would flounder and I'd feel bad, and 4) Majority of my free time is keeping this place afloat.
I work in an office with stable hours yes, but it's a small 'middleman' operation so I have Zero control over how things go but am always the one customers yell at when things go wrong (and my god do things go wrong in the stupidest ways), so it does not matter at all how good I am at my job, I get yelled at for others' mistakes. Plus I have no ability to actually fix anything myself it's always just go talk to this series of person.Which, for me, is particularly bad cause due to some childhood traumas I just... can't talk on the phone. I have such anxiety about being on the phone it's stupid, even voice chats I avoid like the plague. I know it's dumb. This job is worse than normal customer service jobs in that respect, and I've done a lot of customer service as I just have that personality where I can't not help someone. Like, hello someone I just met. Oh? You're birthday is a ruin and you're sad? I will buy you a birthday present.
The job also pays shit cause the only other one in the business is my boss so he pays me personally out of what he makes. I've wanted to get out for over a year now, to the point I've broken down crying over it. Though, some of that may have been helped due to family members being in and out of the hospital for 2 Christmas' now.
I've been trying to spend what little bit of free time I have to myself delving into new coding languages and generally learning web design so I can change career paths, but my motivation is shot as I'm just tired and want to sit back and relax and do what I want when I have time to myself. Right now I'm at the point of quitting my job and going back to school (so yay more debt...) so I can get certification to even be considered for a job I'll enjoy. But I don't even have much desire to do that since my first 6 years in Uni I only have bad memories of professors throwing me under the bus and retarded student advisors. Also, having investigated After Degrees a bit, it seems that even if I do dump money into applying and hoping to get in I am absolutely bottom of the list for everything and may not even be able to get in to any classes I'd need to advance cause everything goes to Transfer Students & High Schoolers. I feel like I've been utterly %@#$^! because I bothered to get a degree already.
Even being here... I like chatting with everyone cause you guys are nearly my only friends. I don't hang out with anyone in the city that is my friend -- they're all my hubby's work friends. But I can't even enjoy the forum really cause I spend 99% of my time making sure everyone else is updated and happy, and I feel like no one else is willing to take half hour out of their day in return. I feel like if I didn't dedicate as much time as I do to even just keeping ZZ creeping along then it would die and it'd be my fault.
[Note: This is just how I feel on my darker days and isn't necessarily a true representation of how things are on ZZ cause I know a lot of others here have had their own junk to deal with. I'm just stressed.]
So yeah, you're not alone in the terrible mess of life, the world showing you the finger, and your brain beating you down. But that's a bright side right? Sadness buddies!